(GivenUs.com) – Standing up for ourselves with courage and confidence isn’t easy. Often, we think of what we should have said long after the conflict is over. It can feel disempowering when we don’t have the right words to speak up for ourselves and command the attention (and respect) we feel we should.
Commanding attention doesn’t mean we need to be aggressive. Instead, we can consider the following steps to begin to command the attention and respect we deserve.
Stay Calm and Practice Self-Control
Focusing on ourselves is the most important step. We need to assess our own triggers and take stock of our boundaries. Instead of reacting, we can choose how we want to respond. If we allow emotion to take the lead, we likely eclipse our rational thought processes and respond differently than we might if we stop to think it through.
Pick Our Battles
Consider if this person matters to us. Arguing with strangers on the Internet is likely not the best use of our time. It may be more prudent to keep scrolling.
If, however, the conflict is with a colleague or friend, it may be important to find a way to discuss the issue and work it out. This is a much better use of our time and energy than arguing with strangers online.
Former Secret Service agent Evy Poumpouras knows the real secret to commanding attention lies in our words. She reveals how to keep your cool while commanding respect in this TedTalk:
Becoming the kind of person who grabs attention the moment they walk in the room isn’t always easy, but it’s more than possible. Learning to communicate, stand up for yourself, and hold firm boundaries is an excellent first step. Who will you become if you finally demand the attention you deserve?
~Here’s to Your Success!
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